A Guide for Grooms
It is time to plan your wedding. The bride is bubbly and enthusiastic with dreams, but the groom is often less enthusiastic. They arrive at the church. The minister will welcome the bride and groom to his office. The minister welcomes the couple to his office and they begin to discuss their wedding plans. The groom seems a little fidgety.
The groom replies, “I don’t really understand why I’m here.”
This is quite common. Although girls might dream about their wedding day for many years, most men only think of it as a way to get married. It’s often an afterthought. Many grooms feel unprepared and even afraid of this experience.
There can be stress and strain as the groom approaches the wedding with all of the planning, social gatherings and fanfare. Extreme pressures can often be placed on relationships during this time. These pressures, stress, and strains can have a significant impact on the wedding and long-term relationships.
How can the groom strengthen their marriage and make the wedding a success?
Are you sure that you want to marry? You better be. Your future depends on your commitment to your bride. Keep your promise close to your heart and remember it often.
Next, make it your mission to understand and accept your bride. You should give your bride all of your considerations for her hopes, dreams, fears, and worries. Pay attention.
Let love flow through your actions, words, and attitudes. Despite all the activity and business, make sure you know your love for your bride. Show your love and affection to her and her family by telling her.
Be patient with yourself and your bride. Be patient with your bride and yourself during the planning, decision-making, and social events.
No fighting. No complaining. No ranting. Listen to others and take into consideration their feelings. Be kind and gentle, even if you get upset. Use of harsh and careless words can cause irreparable damage.
Express sincere appreciation Although we teach our children to thank us, adults often forget this important tip. Let everyone know that you appreciate their efforts and the stress of planning your wedding. Particularly, show your appreciation to the bride and her family.
Don’t get distracted You suddenly find yourself surrounded with people with different ideas, desires, interests. There are many stories of bridesmaids that have feigned with their grooms and caused endless problems. Keep your eyes on the bride and not get distracted by other people.
Eighth, don’t demand your way. You still have options, even if your bride has been dreaming of her wedding for many years. Your bride will be happier if you lower your expectations and allow your need to control and domination to decrease. The wedding will go much more smoothly.
Be moderate with your personal indulgences Avoid excesses. Although alcohol is often associated with celebrations, it can also be associated with negative experiences. You can avoid calamity by practicing moderation and self-discipline.
This is your moment. Enjoy it! Enjoy love! Enjoy your bride! Enjoy your marriage. Enjoy your wedding!